There is a heavy myth in education that once we step into the classroom, we are supposed to be the “Expert in the Room.” For many elementary teachers, this is especially daunting in math. Many don’t see themselves as “math people” and might even joke about it to cover up a deeper insecurity regarding the conceptual methods we use today.
It is terrifying to feel you have to teach something you don’t fully understand. But after years, I’ve realized something: The most powerful words you can say to a student are “I don’t know. Let’s find out”.
Modeling the Struggle
When we admit we don’t know something in the classroom, we are being instructionally agile. Admitting the struggle allows students to be vulnerable themselves. If they see that their teacher has to work at things, it gives them the silent permission to be okay with the struggle, too.
I’m not advocating for being unprepared. But when a student makes an observation you hadn’t thought of, saying, “I don’t know, let’s check it out,” or “Tell me more,” allows the students to become owners of the learning process and cultivates critical thinking. It turns math from a performance into a side-by-side discovery.
Confessions of a Coach
I’ve found that the most effective support I can offer teachers isn’t when I show up with all the answers, it’s when I model that I’m still a learner, too. For a long time, the area model for division was my personal “wall.” I understood the theory, but the mechanics just wouldn’t stick.
Instead of hiding that, I approached a 4th-grade teacher who was a master of the method and asked if I could come in, watch her, and record her lesson so I could watch it until it finally clicked.
Breaking the “Math Person” Trap
When I share this story with teachers who are hesitant to try a new method, the energy shifts. They see that:
- The Struggle is Universal: If a coach has to “rep” a 4th-grade standard multiple times to learn it, it’s okay if they do, too.
- The Method is a Conversation: By asking a colleague for help, I turned our relationship into a partnership. I wasn’t a coach; I was a learner benefiting from her expertise.
- Persistence Pays Off: Just like we tell students that the Mastery Loop requires repetition, we need to give ourselves the same grace to grow.
The standard is the goal, but the method is the conversation.
Creating Space for “Cultural Wealth”
When we step aside as the “source of all knowledge,” we create space for students to be the teachers. I remember a year we were learning division, and a student showed the class a method her immigrant parents had taught her. We celebrated that. We all learned something new because we were open to the idea that there isn’t just one “right” way to get to the answer.
The standard is the goal, but the method is the conversation. By signing our own “permission slip” to not know everything, we empower every student in the room to finally feel like a “Math Person”.
Join the Conversation
When was the last time a student, or a colleague, taught you something in the middle of a math lesson? How did that shift the energy in your room? Let’s talk about the power of being the “Lead Learner” in the comments.













